{"version":"1.0","provider_name":"Barna, Guzy &amp; Steffen, LTD.","provider_url":"https:\/\/www.bgs.com\/blog","author_name":"Elizabeth A. Schading","author_url":"https:\/\/www.bgs.com\/blog\/author\/elizabeth-a-schading\/","title":"Elder and Adult Family Mediation - Barna, Guzy &amp; Steffen, LTD.","type":"rich","width":600,"height":338,"html":"<blockquote class=\"wp-embedded-content\" data-secret=\"nqtmo5Gq25\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.bgs.com\/blog\/2012\/03\/20\/elder-and-adult-family-mediation\/\">Elder and Adult Family Mediation<\/a><\/blockquote><iframe sandbox=\"allow-scripts\" security=\"restricted\" src=\"https:\/\/www.bgs.com\/blog\/2012\/03\/20\/elder-and-adult-family-mediation\/embed\/#?secret=nqtmo5Gq25\" width=\"600\" height=\"338\" title=\"&#8220;Elder and Adult Family Mediation&#8221; &#8212; Barna, Guzy &amp; Steffen, LTD.\" data-secret=\"nqtmo5Gq25\" frameborder=\"0\" marginwidth=\"0\" marginheight=\"0\" scrolling=\"no\" class=\"wp-embedded-content\"><\/iframe><script type=\"text\/javascript\">\n\/*! This file is auto-generated *\/\n!function(c,d){\"use strict\";var e=!1,o=!1;if(d.querySelector)if(c.addEventListener)e=!0;if(c.wp=c.wp||{},c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage);else if(c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if(!t);else if(!(t.secret||t.message||t.value));else if(\/[^a-zA-Z0-9]\/.test(t.secret));else{for(var r,s,a,i=d.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),n=d.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret=\"'+t.secret+'\"]'),o=new RegExp(\"^https?:$\",\"i\"),l=0;l<n.length;l++)n[l].style.display=\"none\";for(l=0;l<i.length;l++)if(r=i[l],e.source!==r.contentWindow);else{if(r.removeAttribute(\"style\"),\"height\"===t.message){if(1e3<(s=parseInt(t.value,10)))s=1e3;else if(~~s<200)s=200;r.height=s}if(\"link\"===t.message)if(s=d.createElement(\"a\"),a=d.createElement(\"a\"),s.href=r.getAttribute(\"src\"),a.href=t.value,!o.test(a.protocol));else if(a.host===s.host)if(d.activeElement===r)c.top.location.href=t.value}}},e)c.addEventListener(\"message\",c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),d.addEventListener(\"DOMContentLoaded\",t,!1),c.addEventListener(\"load\",t,!1);function t(){if(o);else{o=!0;for(var e,t,r,s=-1!==navigator.appVersion.indexOf(\"MSIE 10\"),a=!!navigator.userAgent.match(\/Trident.*rv:11\\.\/),i=d.querySelectorAll(\"iframe.wp-embedded-content\"),n=0;n<i.length;n++){if(!(r=(t=i[n]).getAttribute(\"data-secret\")))r=Math.random().toString(36).substr(2,10),t.src+=\"#?secret=\"+r,t.setAttribute(\"data-secret\",r);if(s||a)(e=t.cloneNode(!0)).removeAttribute(\"security\"),t.parentNode.replaceChild(e,t);t.contentWindow.postMessage({message:\"ready\",secret:r},\"*\")}}}}(window,document);\n<\/script>\n","description":"Family harmony can be jeopardized when difficult decisions need to be made and adult siblings and parents don\u2019t agree. Maybe you think your Mom should move into assisted living. Or, maybe you\u2019re uncomfortable with Dad\u2019s driving. You might think that it\u2019s time to sell the family cabin, but your sister loves the cabin and can\u2019t bear to part with it and all the memories. Where do you go when the people most like you \u2013 those sharing your genes \u2013 and with whom you have more history than anyone else in the world, can\u2019t see eye to eye? The legal system isn\u2019t your best option if you\u2019re hoping to continue those family ties after the issue is resolved. A better option is mediation. Mediation allows decisions to be made by the people most affected. It\u2019s a confidential process which allows for creativity but requires compromise. A trained mediator can facilitate a discussion with the ultimate goal of preserving family relationships while resolving the complex interests of all involved. If decisions are being made for and sometimes with an elderly parent, that parent is going to want to preserve as much independence as possible. Adult children might have competing concerns about safety and appropriate care. And then there\u2019s money &#8211; who has it, who..."}