1.0Barna, Guzy & Steffen, LTD.https://www.bgs.com/blogElizabeth A. Schadinghttps://www.bgs.com/blog/author/elizabeth-a-schading/rich600338<blockquote class="wp-embedded-content" data-secret="DhUn4vLo5j"><a href="https://www.bgs.com/blog/2013/11/18/success-of-divorce-mediation/">How Can I Contribute to the Success of Divorce Mediation?</a></blockquote><iframe sandbox="allow-scripts" security="restricted" src="https://www.bgs.com/blog/2013/11/18/success-of-divorce-mediation/embed/#?secret=DhUn4vLo5j" width="600" height="338" title="“How Can I Contribute to the Success of Divorce Mediation?” — Barna, Guzy & Steffen, LTD." data-secret="DhUn4vLo5j" frameborder="0" marginwidth="0" marginheight="0" scrolling="no" class="wp-embedded-content"></iframe><script type="text/javascript"> /*! This file is auto-generated */ !function(c,d){"use strict";var e=!1,o=!1;if(d.querySelector)if(c.addEventListener)e=!0;if(c.wp=c.wp||{},c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage);else if(c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage=function(e){var t=e.data;if(!t);else if(!(t.secret||t.message||t.value));else if(/[^a-zA-Z0-9]/.test(t.secret));else{for(var r,s,a,i=d.querySelectorAll('iframe[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),n=d.querySelectorAll('blockquote[data-secret="'+t.secret+'"]'),o=new RegExp("^https?:$","i"),l=0;l<n.length;l++)n[l].style.display="none";for(l=0;l<i.length;l++)if(r=i[l],e.source!==r.contentWindow);else{if(r.removeAttribute("style"),"height"===t.message){if(1e3<(s=parseInt(t.value,10)))s=1e3;else if(~~s<200)s=200;r.height=s}if("link"===t.message)if(s=d.createElement("a"),a=d.createElement("a"),s.href=r.getAttribute("src"),a.href=t.value,!o.test(a.protocol));else if(a.host===s.host)if(d.activeElement===r)c.top.location.href=t.value}}},e)c.addEventListener("message",c.wp.receiveEmbedMessage,!1),d.addEventListener("DOMContentLoaded",t,!1),c.addEventListener("load",t,!1);function t(){if(o);else{o=!0;for(var e,t,r,s=-1!==navigator.appVersion.indexOf("MSIE 10"),a=!!navigator.userAgent.match(/Trident.*rv:11\./),i=d.querySelectorAll("iframe.wp-embedded-content"),n=0;n<i.length;n++){if(!(r=(t=i[n]).getAttribute("data-secret")))r=Math.random().toString(36).substr(2,10),t.src+="#?secret="+r,t.setAttribute("data-secret",r);if(s||a)(e=t.cloneNode(!0)).removeAttribute("security"),t.parentNode.replaceChild(e,t);t.contentWindow.postMessage({message:"ready",secret:r},"*")}}}}(window,document); </script> Divorce mediation can be an excellent process for reducing costs and increasing the chances of creating a divorce outcome that is livable for everyone. That is not to say that the process is easy, or that it does not carry some unique pitfalls. If you’re asking yourself what you can do to make the process more successful, however, then you are already on the right track. Create a list of reasonable goals. Know what you want this mediation to achieve. Write these goals down. If you don’t know where you’re trying to go then it will be harder to be productive. That doesn’t mean that it will be possible to meet each and every one of your goals exactly as you envision them. But if they are reasonable they at least give you a starting point. Shift your mindset. In a divorce, it’s very natural to start looking for who is at fault. But that attitude is counter-productive during the divorce mediation process. You need to release any need to get revenge, assign blame, or cast yourself as the victim. There is a problem before you and your spouse. The mediation process is successful only when you focus on solving that problem instead of picking apart the events that brought you to the...https://bgs.com/wp-content/uploads/Divorce-150x38.png